“Why Can’t You Just EAT?!?”

That’s what many people say about eating disorders when they don’t understand the problem. I’ve had a friend (in the media) “suggest” that he just “buy them a bunch of Dunkin Donuts.” Those of us who have been personally affected by eating disorders just want to scream at them and let them know that it’s pointless to be told to “just eat something” or “don’t throw up!”

I like to help those who don’t really understand the eating disorder mindset this way: think of something that you have done for a long time, to help you deal with your stress.  Is that having a beer or two? Sitting in front of the TV to relax? Smoking?  Even something healthy, like exercise?

Now, I’d like for you to stop doing that thing:  You have 3 days (or 5 days) to stop.  GO!

This is exactly what people with eating disorders are expected to do when they are placed in a hospital setting.  Many times, insurance companies will only allow them 2-3 days at a time, even if they are struggling significantly and need more long-term care.  I’ve even had clients who struggle with bulimia be denied for inpatient treatment because they don’t meet the “weight criteria” – for those who understand eating disorders, Anorexia Nervosa is the only eating disorder that has a weight criteria, not Bulimia Nervosa.

These are but a few of the many significant issues that those with eating disorders face when trying to get treatment.  This is why the Manna Fund exists – to help those who have life-threatening eating disorders obtain treatment when they otherwise could not.

We would love to put each of the 25+ applicants (per quarter) who need such care into treatment – and, God willing, we will someday.  At this point in time, we are asking for small, monthly contributions to help maintain Manna Fund, as well as large, corporate donations to help put these individuals in treatment today.

Remember – just as those with other medical issues didn’t “ask for it”, people with eating disorders don’t either.  There are no easy cures for those with eating disorders.  However, your financial gift, regardless of how small, can help support someone get that very intensive, expensive treatment that can save their life!

Welcome to Talk It Out!

We are thrilled that you are taking “Talk It Out” for a spin!  This is where you can spend time writing out your thoughts, exploring underlying issues, and expressing yourself…in other words, “Talk it OUT!”  We understand that you may feel a lot of shame, pain, and other uncomfortable feelings that are difficult to share, and we want you to have a “safe space” to express yourself.

There are various ways to express yourself within this page.  Starting at the top left, there’s a “Postcards” icon where you can create visual pictures.  This is used with the “Whiteboard” icon. You may upload your own photos or draw your own.  Once you have created your image, you may save the postcard, save the images you have uploaded, and choose what to do with them.  Creating the postcards is done on the whiteboard application, which has many different features for creation – the possibilities are endless!

Have a need to connect with others? We have created, inside of our “Chat Room” the ability to join different conversations around eating disorders!  As a person with an eating disorder, a loved one of someone with an eating disorder, or someone who’s curious, we have provider-led “Tables” for you to access and join in on the discussion.  All questions and responses are moderated and filtered through the table leader.

Finally, inside the “Safe Space” is a clock.  This Recovery Clock is designed to help you track your eating disordered recovery time.  You can start, pause, and restart your clock to help you understand your recovery process!

We also have other “pieces” to the Safe Space that we are working on for more information and accuracy for your recovery for future release.  So stay in recovery and keep on going, even when you feel you can’t!  YOU are worth it!

A note from the developers…

Hi.  Genie here.

I wanted to thank you for exploring our new concept in helping those with eating disorders and their loved ones gain access to care when they otherwise cannot.  I’m extremely excited and hopeful that this new website will be a “go to” for anyone affected by an eating disorder.

However, while we are “under construction”, please send any feedback that you have to us: help@talkitout.org.  We would love to hear your thoughts on how we can improve the site!